My birth to some may not have seemed that traumatic, nothing really bad happened and my son was born healthy. But the whole experience left me feeling really frightened and although the midwives where nice they didn’t let me know what was happening, everything felt out of my control and I didn’t feel heard. At first, I thought I was in shock and kept telling myself I should be happy my baby was born healthy, but the feeling wouldn’t go away and I kept replaying the birth in my head all the time. And I felt that my family and friends didn’t really understand why I felt so negative about it all. I found the process has really helped shift the way I now think about my birth and I’m not ruminating over it every day. Nicola instantly made me feel relaxed and her space is really inviting, she even gave me some oils to rub on my wrists to help me relax and a lavender eye bag. After each session she was happy to talk through how I was feeling and I left feeling relaxed which was something I hadn’t expected
Birth Trauma Release
Throughout my work I have witnessed and heard stories of many wonderful birthing experiences. However, I have also seen and spoken to many women who found their pregnancies or births traumatic. This led me to wanting to further support parents and have qualified as a 3 Step Rewind practitioner with the amazing Mark Harris at Birthing Awareness Training.
Feelings of trauma can be related to your birth experience, a difficult fertility journey, a challenging pregnancy or related to the postnatal period. Or perhaps you are pregnant again and have found difficult emotions resurfacing. These feelings may also be affecting your birth partner.
Or you may be a midwife and struggling with an experience you encountered at work.
Unpleasant feelings you may be facing include:
- Anxiety
- Avoidance
- Disconnection/negative emotions
- Panic attacks
- Insomnia
- Irritability/anger
- Hypervigilance
- Flashbacks
- Feelings of guilt, shame, and failure
These feelings may affect how you bond with your baby, go on to parent your child, prevent you from enjoying motherhood and subsequent pregnancies. They can impact on your relationships with your partner, family, friends and most importantly yourself.
The process involves 3, 45-minute sessions with me in person or via zoom. It is not necessary for you to talk about your experience if you choose not to.
Reaching out for support can often be the biggest act of braveness, but it is possible that you can free yourself from these challenging emotions.
If you feel that you are ready to take the next step towards feeling at peace from your experience, get in touch and we can begin the process of healing.
Testimonials
After my daughter was born sooner than expected, everything seemed like a whirlwind. It was only a few weeks later that it all hit me, and I couldn’t stop thinking about the birth and how we could have lost her, it made me anxious and i felt on high alert, worrying something bad would happen to my baby. It was affecting my enjoyment of bring a new mum and I wanted to stop thinking about it all the time. I’m so glad I went through the three 3 step rewind with Nicola and she made me feel at ease straight away and explained everything. I feel so much positive when I think about my birth now, I haven’t forgotten what happened, but it doesn’t affect me like it did before. I finally feel like I can start to enjoy being a mum. If you’ve had a difficult birth experience, I would highly recommend Nicola and going through the 3-step process
